October 8, 2008
Preparing Hayden
So, I have one more concern! I have been trying to talk to Hayden about having a little brother in our house. Well, first of all I think he thinks we are getting a dog because his favorite movie is Mulan, and "Little Brother" is the name of her dog. So, how do you prepare a 2 1/2 year old for another child? Everytime I talk about "Little Brother" he either ignores me, or says "No"! I have tried to tell him I have a baby in my tummy, but he says.."No, Hayden has a baby in my tummy!" Obviously it is time for him to have a buddy around because, I think he is getting far too comfortable being the only child in the house! Anyway, anyone have any advise??
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uh, yeah, you're totally pregnant! AAHH!! I've been so behind. I'm so excited for you and hope that everything goes great for you. You have the cutest kids ever so I know it will be another success!
It seemed to work for me to tell my kids "Julia this is your baby. (pointing to my tummy) What are you going to do with? Can you give it bottles?" Ect. Pretty much telling them they own the baby. They can't be angry at something they own, right?
LOL!! I have no advice, but I think it is funny that he thinks "little brother" is a dog! Are you going to cave and let him be Moulin for Halloween?
I actually let Liberty come to an appointment with me to see an ultrasound of the baby. We talked about her new little sister being in mom's tummy. It also helped when we officially decided that she was going to be named Hannah so that we had a name to tie onto the baby. She also got a new baby doll that I taught her how to "take care of" and told her that mommy would take care of her new sister just like that. Mostly we just talked about it A LOT trying to get her used to the idea. I have heard that you can take classes on helping the kids adjust to the new baby- your dr. may know something about where that would be offered. Good Luck- you really can't prepare them fully until after the baby is here!
Not that I have any advice but it is a funny story about the dog. You know my older brother didn't want me either. My mom has always said there was little they could do to get him to change his mind. When they called him on the phone to tell him I had been born he said to send me back. But he got over it once I was around - I'm sure Hayden will too. Don't worry too much about it.
Arcadia did the same thing when I was first pregnant with Mekensy. She would yell at me when I asked where her sister was. It really just got better with time. As I got bigger she seemed to understand more. Things really changed when she felt the baby move for the first time. After that she would always touch my belly and say that the baby kicked her (when she wasn't even moving). She still had moments when she would ignore my questions, but once we got the baby toys and swing out, decorated the room, and got her a new big girl bed and things she was okay with the idea. She really has done well except for the occassional poke of the eye.
Hi Kassie! How are you? Well for the whole addvice thing I would say just let it go for now and when the baby comes it will become natural for him to accept it! When I had my daughter my son kept asking when we were taking her back, he finnaly relized and accepted she was here to stay! He loved and protected her from that point on! Good Luck!
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